Truthbomb Tuesday: Submission Isn’t Weakness—It’s Trust

Submission in marriage is hard work. And let’s be honest—many women hear the word “submission” and immediately think weakness, passivity, or being controlled. Phrases like, “He’s not going to tell me what to do. He’s not going to control me,” are common. But here’s the truth: submission in a healthy marriage is about trusting your husband as you trust God, not surrendering to domination or abuse.

I was a single mom for nearly 18 years before I remarried in 2021. Over these past few years, God has taken me deeper into what He means when He asks wives to submit. Submission isn’t about being controlled—it’s about trusting your husband enough to follow his lead, even when your flesh is screaming, “Don’t do it!” Saying “I do” meant surrendering control and choosing to trust God’s guidance in my husband’s life. It’s not always easy, but submitting with a willing heart has opened the door to deeper connection, grace, and intimacy in our marriage.

I know that not every husband leads well. That’s why I was single for so long—I wasn’t willing to give control of myself to someone unless I was confident he was led by God. The Bible does not say wives submit blindly; it calls us to submit as to the Lord.

Submission is an act of faith. It’s choosing to trust, support, and cooperate—even when it’s challenging. When done from a heart surrendered to God, it strengthens your marriage, deepens intimacy, and honors both your husband and the Lord.

If your husband is not seeking God and striving to lead in love, pray for his heart and ask God to give you courage and wisdom to follow him in the ways God intends.

Try This:

1. Identify one area in your marriage where submission feels hardest. Ask yourself: How can I follow God’s guidance in this situation?

2. Take a small, intentional step today to respond with trust and grace.

3. Reflect or journal: How did this choice impact your heart, your emotions, or your connection with your husband?

Inviting God In:

Submitting as to the Lord is an act of faith. Pray for your husband’s heart, ask God to guide your interactions, and invite Him to give you courage, humility, and discernment as you follow His plan for your marriage.

Let’s Connect:

If this has helped you, please either share in the comments or reach out via my website—I’d love to hear how this perspective is shaping your marriage.

I’ll see you tomorrow for Wellness Wednesday.