A phrase you’ll often hear in therapy is this: “Feelings are not facts.” Sometimes when people hear that, they think it means therapists are dismissing emotions. That couldn’t be further from the truth. Feelings matter. They tell us something is happening inside us. They alert us to pain, fear, excitement, anger, grief, or joy. They are an important part of being human. But feelings are not always the full picture of reality. For example: You might feel rejected when a friend doesn’t return a...

I was a single mom for nearly two decades, and it was during that same season that I became a Christian. Most of those years, I longed for marriage. I truly believed that if I married a Christian man and I was a Christian woman, we’d have an amazing marriage and life would be great. So, I set out to find a husband—even though, if I’m honest, I wasn’t anywhere near ready to be a godly wife. During that time, I was part of a small group at church filled mostly with married couples. We studied...

We tend to lean into busy because being still somehow feels less than. For years, I was a true busybody. I signed up for every committee, volunteered for every event, and ran from one thing to the next—with kids in tow. I thought that’s what the Christian life was supposed to look like—constant doing. I knew about the story of Mary and Martha, about the beauty of sitting at Jesus’ feet, but I didn’t think that was meant to be a lifestyle. I thought it was something you did occasionally —after...