Truthbomb Tuesday: The Trap of “Do What Makes You Happy”

I was reading Proverbs 4 recently, and I was reminded me that while we should be accepting of others, we also need a healthy skepticism about human behavior. It got me thinking about the divisions we see in society today—issues like abortion, gender identity, and more—and how easily Christians can fall into the trap of thinking that loving someone means agreeing with whatever makes them happy.

Here’s the hard truth: going along with someone just to make them happy isn’t actually love. Doing what makes someone happy at the expense of honoring God puts the focus on them—or on you—rather than on Him.

When we make ourselves the ultimate authority—our happiness the ultimate goal—we step into a place that God alone should occupy. We forget that Christians are called to deny the flesh, take up their cross, and follow Him. Happiness is not the end goal; faithfulness, obedience, and alignment with God’s Word are.Think about Peter walking on water. As long as he kept his eyes on Jesus, he could walk. The moment he shifted focus to himself—his fear, his doubt—he began to sink. When we chase happiness instead of God’s direction, we risk sinking spiritually in the same way.

Try This:

1. Reflect on one decision you’re facing today. Ask yourself: Am I choosing this because it honors God, or because it makes me or someone else happy?

2. Notice small moments where you unconsciously chase happiness or approval over obedience to God. Write them down.

3. Consider one action you can take today that centers God in your choice rather than your own desires or others’ approval.

Inviting God In:

Take a moment to pause and notice where your focus has been today. Ask yourself, How can I honor God in this choice or conversation? Consider His perspective and let it guide your words and actions. Even small shifts—like choosing integrity over approval or truth over comfort—are ways to center God in your daily decisions.

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